My philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice.
Happiness isn’t the goal, it’s the currency; not to be earned, but generated through the everydayness of living.
If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it – then I can achieve it
As I move less and carry more, longevity has started to come more in focus. E.g with relationships, I’ve learned what forms them isn’t what sustains them. Where excitement, appreciation and attention may help you form the bond; anger, hurt and unhappiness is where their sustainability lies. Dealing with troubles kindly is the key. Not straining in difficult times and keeping judgement out are what give it length. Because if you are generally happy people (like most are), the good parts take care of themselves.
The maintenance of self-esteem is a continuous task that taxes all of the individual’s power and inner resources. We have to prove our worth and justify our existence anew each day.
While living in different cultures may lead some to confusion and some to abandonment, if experienced properly, it can lead to wisdom not generally available to either. Each new culture will entice you with its freedoms and with its comforts in excuses. The only thing to keep in mind, is to not loose yourself to them. Instead, if you are able to see past these and peer into the responsibility they imply, you’ll be able to see the beauty of generations of wisdom that lead them there. Take it, absorb those ideas and stand proud for learning the best of both.
The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.
Increasingly I realize that there are two basic underlying sources to much of human thoughts and behaviors. Those that stem from rigidness (habits discipline, preferences etc.) I call dark patterns, and those that stem from openness (empathy, flow, flexibility etc.), light. Many are naturally inclined towards one and it shapes much of their thoughts, actions and outcomes. Through life we constantly try to improve ourselves by focussing on specific traits like extroversion vs. introversion, or saying yes more than no. But it may be more prudent to focus on the source of these behaviors in others and ourself rather then the manifestations to perfect the mix and not the symptoms. In an idealist’s world, I would advocate for total light patterns but being effective in reality demands a basic structure of rigidness and dark patterns to hold the light. The pattern of your structure will be unique to you but the goal should be to have the least amount of rigidness that can sustain the openness. I hope to always keep openness to full; sprinkle in rigidness as needed and crush the bad parts of both light and dark the moment they appear.
Simply put, meaningfulness comes from contributing to other people, whereas happiness comes from what they contribute to you. This runs counter to some conventional wisdom.
It’s all of them – fear, sadness, confusion, hurt, joy, contentment; all the unexpected patterns, all the chaos. Working to avoid one will dim all the others. The goal is the journey, the reason is us… and above all else, happiness is an obligation.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.
…the jaw-dropping gorgeousness of the turning orb, like a self-propelled art gallery of fantastic constantly changing beauty, that is the world itself.
We can always be ordinarily civil, even if we cannot always be absolutely wise.
The ability to forgive oneself… is the key to making art, and very possibly the key to finding any semblance of happiness in life.
If you observe gender roles in the South Asian cultures (but maybe the greater world as well), you will quickly realize that all the social pressures, expectations, encouragements & transgressions are linked to two very simple underlying ideas. Women are responsible for protecting ‘face’ and men are responsible for increasing it. It’s on these ideas that we judge, teach and raise our generations. How they dress, behave and model themselves are directly related to these ‘responsibilities’. Men are casually forgiven transgressions of disgrace, while women are allowed lives of minimal contribution. One is pressured to be proper, while the other to perform. And although each might be equally incomplete, the pressure for protection curbs the ability to perform more than the opposite. And if you think hard enough, you will realize that it’s not the boys that need to be taught how to respect girls as much as it’s the parents who need to learn how to raise them both. Teach girls to make you proud & boys to not be the reason for disgrace – and then hold them both to it. Teaching responsibility correctly will lead to respect, doing the opposite isn’t working fast enough.
The self is the friend of a man who masters himself through the self, but for a man without self-mastery, the self is like an enemy at war.
The greatest demonstration of power and security is to actually make oneself defenseless, to become as comfortable with one’s weaknesses as possible.
As far as your self-control goes, as far goes your freedom.
It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
It gives me comfort, that my strong ability to self-delude is matched only by my inability to think well. This way, I am easily derailed from living in my right by the obvious flaws in my ideas.
Human life is a fickle balance. We are beings of contradiction and of disproportionate capacities. We have the ability to see the future, but not enough to give us comfort; the gift of understanding, but not knowing for certain; and a life with a million possibilities, without any rhyme or reason to what is enough and why at all?!!
So we know how the golden formula changes foreign policy. It’s more about teaching and less about enforcing. But what about law, where everything is about enforcement. How does it change that. Well, let’s build the same idea again.
We don’t know the truth. The truth changes as quickly as perspective. And law is the way we provide perspective. It is the way we currently enforce structure & morality. But the biggest problem with today’s law is that perspectives change a lot faster than laws do. We don’t live in the same world where it takes ages for people to outgrow a way of life. We are changing and adapting way quicker than we can manage. So we need a system that is just as dynamic.
The Current Law System is Broken
I think this is an easy claim to defend so I briefly state this case. Our laws are too many, and their impact too little. The world changes too fast for everything to have an approved official rule for it. And it’s preposterous that common sense has no value. When you define everything, you, must then rely on those definition. And since you can’t actually define everything, the definition that you rely on are the easiest way to injustice. This is also known as loopholes.
If no one is ever right because right changes super quickly. We cannot define the laws to their lower level. We need tiers of laws:
- Tier 3: these can change if a good case is made during a trial
- Tier 2: that require revision every 10 years and need data and context for revision
- Tier 1: That require revision every 20/50 years or longer. The amendments to the constitutions would come here
A lower tier cannot trump an upper level law unless it is specifically stated as the exception, and everything in-between needs to be left ‘undefined’. This way, each case has to establish it’s own boundaries.
The reason it needs to be simpler and common sense driven, is because we all have different time-gates. And the law needs to adapt to that.
This image shows how the law draws a line through everyone’s time gates. Some can operate at the level some cannot and some are way beyond it!
In my opinion a person who commits a murder isn’t entirely at fault. If a community produces 1 murderer for every 10,000. It was not the fault of the person that s/he was the 10,000th one in that community. That same person in another community would be different! Statistics shows no mercy.
So the law needs to create a more flexible model. If you come from a community where there is 1 murder a day. The expectations should be different than with a suburban area of no murders. The 1 murder a day is not the problem, the second murder is what needs to be punished. Similarly, in a community of no murders 1 murder is an equally big deal.
But we can’t just condone the 1 murder a day. Especially if it goes goes against all our tiers. So how do we handle it? We need to spend more time in hiring consultants that can come up with better punishments. Something that does not take the person out of the community. But keeps the person in and forces that person to become a willing or unwilling contributor of better change. These punishments need to have 2 goals:
- To highlight that person for his/her punishment.
- To make them do actions that can be scientifically proven to have a net positive effect (no matter how marginal) on the entire society.
And over time, the net positive needs to be improved as we learn more. This way we judge them by their time-gates, punish things that are worse and encourage the better, without throwing all the burden on the individual. A community is a collection of individuals, and an individual an archetype of the community. You can’t punish one without impacting all.
Foreign Policy is quite possibly the best place to put this in practice. The mental time-gate difference between countries is pretty high. Now remember, different time-gates does not mean you have superior thoughts, ideas and philosophies. That’s what causes our old problems. It just means that your’s are incompatible with theirs an which one is better is hard to tell for sure. The right answer would be a combination of both. So if you allow them to slowly come towards your side and allow them to move you to theirs, by only adapting the part of each other that you both think makes sense, you both can grow and crystallize the true knowledge. Gaining a better perspective on the truth.
Show how does this effect Foreign Policy?
Well, it effect the philosophy and the practice. So let’s analyze how each part effect it’s counter part.
The Philosophy of Foreign Policy
Let’s look at this model again. Above all is truth. and every person only have a perception of it. With different people and different brains the perceptions are different. Since truth in infinite, it is not worth arguing who is entirely better than the other. The reality is that both are wrong in the future time-gates, and both have some truth in the current one. I am going to re-use the image below as an illustration.
So if no one is ever really right (hippy philosophy there), then what is the point of interacting, or anything? What is the motivation behind foreign policy?
The answer is two-fold:
As I mentioned before. If time is infinite, and every thing is in constant change. Than yes, no-one can really claim to ever be right for more than a tiny fraction. Not even laws of physics in it’s traditional sense hold’s the same sway when we move from world in our scale, to the enormous scale of the universe and then back into quantum mechanics. We have to modify the concepts as often as we grow our perspectives. So this means we need to understand no matter how-well off we are than other nations, we do not have all the answers. We have ideas, but these ideas need to be modified constantly! To go pompously imposing, what we believe are the right decisions from our superior knowledge, is quiet frankly naive and proves the very point.
Then what’s the point? Now I am not saying we shouldn’t share our ideas, I am just saying that being too sure of them is by default the wrong approach.
Then what’s the point? The point then of interacting is exactly what it has always been. It improve each other’s understanding. Not to impose but to improve. Understanding the merits of both perspectives and keeping the best of both is what will yield us the next perspective. Because that is what it’s all about. If you don’t want to end up as the civilization that falls from grace and is replaced by another. You need to know that the answer lies in constant change. And this constant change comes from those who differ. If you keep adapting their best bits, you will always stay ahead and they will adapt yours. This is how we are able grow both sides. This is what will lead us to the Utopian society we all dream of.
So what does this change? It changes the philosophy behind our interactions. As hard it is to follow we need to know that we can’t really ever be right, but we must interact if we ever want to. The current lack of humility is what allows us to spend the trillions of dollars in other countries in an attempt to rescue them from them and make them us. Our inability to see ourselves as wrong is our inability to see the right approach. This goes for every county there is.
Our inability to see ourselves as wrong is our inability to see the right approach.
By the time we enforce our idea of democracy, economics, family values, gender roles etc. the time has shifted so much that we ourselves have become wrong. And this constant assertion that we are right is the reason we can’t see the right in others and keep changing them. This philosophical difference is quite profound, because it stops the us vs. them. But it’s still not as actionable, and people might think this is a purely opinion piece. So let’s talk practicality.
The Strategy of Foreign Policy
Here comes the second part that really brings the magic to this. This is where the lesson in morality ends and the practical implication discussed. Everyone has different time-gates. That’s the key. They are at different times and the gates don’t allow us to jump to other times, only grow towards them. This idea that human brain has a limit to how much it can be corrected is the key. If we over correct it, it breaks. Things fall apart and everything goes to hell. This is the latest piece on Politico: The Man Who Broke the Middle East. Here hubris and bad actions are the two main reasons justifying the title. We already understood hubris from the top section. Now is time to talk strategy.
If people have wildly different time gates, and they cannot jump to yours you need to change perspective on what is right and how to measure it. I used this image below to explain how the ‘bridge‘ should work.
Area under the curve is the only thing that counts. We need to find the highest point of what the entire population can accept. If we move them too much in our direction too fast, we will break them. What we accomplish will be less than what is possible, or worse. And in this case it has been worse. View how different they still are, and how much injustice there still is, isn’t the point. It’s how much we have moved them forward. When you reach a point where force is needed to cleanse the before and then re-establish the present. You haven’t gained at all, because that is by definition the farthest point outside their mental time-gate. It is so far out that you have given up on dealing with the brain; you are given up reason. That is not only dangerous it is unsustainable.
If you can not reason something to the other. It is either outside their mental time-gate entirely, or it is entirely unreasonable. Either-way, force is a loss. And the more force you have to use, the greater the net loss.
Eradicating a thought using force is down-right senseless. These are harsh words for the great world leaders, but really simple to understand when you think about it. If you have to give up on using your brain and start using your muscle, you have lost in the arena of time. How long before the force cracks and everything spills out with the even more vengeance. Now, you have not only closed any chance of marginal improvement. You have actively created hurdles against your success.
“But you can’t negotiate with criminals & terrorists!” That statement itself is bone-headed and dripping with hubris. There may be enough flexibility in time to accommodate this thinking for a one-off smaller case. But to do this to an entire nation or group is savage and clearly ‘beyond reason’. Remember the same laws of nature don’t apply to every scale. At this point your only option is to negotiate. At their home-turf they are not the terrorists, it’s their narrative. We need think from their perspective.
So what does this mean? This means no drastic changes! If it can’t be reasoned with the most of them, it shouldn’t be implemented on any of them. This means some dictators would have to stay on longer. This means you can’t eradicate all the honor-killings and the suicide bombings. Rapes will happen, murders committed. This means you have to deal with wisdom. You have to win at time.
Instead of changing the governance and leaving people utterly ill-prepared, smaller changes need to encouraged. If a country cannot operate democracy at a smaller city level. It cannot do this at a larger level. This means policy should be focused on preventing regression in time-gates, not in preventing crime. Bad actions are only bad if you can convince people of the morality you believe in. There are people in the world who are not ready for democracy. To them murder is not a heinous a crime. It’s justice. To them rape is not unspeakable atrocious. To them rape is justice. The battlefield is not actions. It is thought. If you wished to eradicate everyone who was wrong, you might as well start with yourself. Teach them the truth. One small step at a time. It is easier to influence a person that a nation. Even if people ask for change individually, they should not be delivered what they can’t handle collectively. While we do this, we should look within ourselves. Does our own democracy need an upgrade? Can we learn to save ourselves as well?
This is what it means to have a foreign policy of wisdom. Where enlightenment is the goal and punishment a loss. Now that we have applied this to a global level. Let’s talk about what this model means at a smaller level. Where people have the similar time-gates. How does this change the face of how we create laws.
Leadership is one of the most discussed concepts here in the West. There is something about being relatively better-off that pushes our brain to the conclusion that we can also lead others into this. To a certain degree, it is right… because you need to see the better-off to get there, but it isn’t all there is. Leadership can be tough and exhausting, but based on the time-gate model there is finally a really simple, singular path to being a good leader. It’s a simple formula that can be used as ‘quick’ test of sorts to see if your leadership methods, goals & strategies are actually correct for the people.
You need a rational reason for why you aren’t 100% right
Based on the golden formula, we always start with truth as being an infinity. So no matter what, you cannot assume you are 100% correct. That is key for a good leader. I am not saying to second-guess yourself all the time. But know that no matter how strongly you believe in a particular way. It is not the right one. It can temporarily be the best one, but that’s why it can always be improved. So this instill the first thing. Which is humility, combined with a rational understanding of why you have to keep improving every concept you have.
You need to the most flexible time-gate
You need a vision. This part is easier to understand. Anyone who is ‘better-off’ already has the vision. They live it; and they can extrapolate a mildly better version. So if you are in the West, you can understand what it means to live in a world with relatively less corruption, conflict & and human indignation. So you have a vision of how you can change the place that does experience it. A true leader however, should have a vision that is on the periphery of the highest time-gate currently available. If you can not accept the most progressive person, you don’t have the mental flexibility to accept many of the most conservative ones. What does this mean? you time-gate is too limited and you need to keep growing it in all direction. Once you have a time-gate that is so flexible that it can accept opinions in every direction. Then only can you be trusted to be a leader and not a dictator. This is where a few people will fall off the leadership list.
Revolutionizing is out of the question
This is quite possibly the hardest one to understand (and even harder to accept). Any leader who believes they can revolutionize social change are at best naive and at worst dangerous. This is where most people will fall of the list. You can not revolutionize ideas. Remember we have time-gates. And individual time-gates are more flexible than those of entire communities, groups or nations. If you think you can revolutionize everything so that the world is perfect, you are wrong. Even if it works for an individual, it will fail for a nation. If you have less sway, you will simply fail. If you have a lot of sway, you will break everything and most likely be viewed as evil because of your extreme impositions and for disruption of the majority’s lifestyle. This currently our biggest gap in leadership. This is where everyone from capitalist advocates, to socialists to religious extremists are equally wrong. And more right than the other depending on the base population and their time-gate.
So what can we do, if not revolutionize?
The answer is simply. We can do what leaders are meant to do. Leaders are not meant to punish destroy and cripple the opposition. They are meant to enlighten everyone. If you cannot change the mind of your opposition, you have simply failed as a leader and are now becoming the source for extremism. I am going to show the final diagram that has the answer beautifully layout out.
You need to only push the subjects to their highest point at which you and them both agree. At this point, they think that this is the best possible outcome there could have been. One that is creative enough that both parties can live without hurting the other. If you keep moving them to the limit of where their and your time-gates overlap. You can eventually move them well within yours. THIS is progress.
This means you will have corruption, you will have miss-management, murders, injustice, terrorism, everything. This means that we have learnt anything from history, it’s that incremental progress over-time is the only way to maintain maturity in the population. This mean that;
True leadership is inspiring people to be the best imaginable person; while helping them be the best of what they can humanly be.
So, I know up till now my blog has mostly been a weird collection of esoteric raw thoughts (that sound more like performance arts pieces than reasonable opinions) and some refined thoughts that, even though aren’t special, are at least intelligible. But I have something here, that I think is the most amazing realization I have had to date.
An equation for how you can interact with this complex, opinionated, diverse and scattered world in a way that does not create arguments!
Yes! that’s how brilliant I think it is. I first thought of this as a personal moral system for myself but then as I thought more, I realized what I had was something more. It’s the perfect way to understand leadership; to measure the value of all historic figures without bias; to redefine justice & create simpler & more effective laws; to provide the right perspective for foreign policy; to have discussions without having arguments (no, seriously) and the missing piece that all A.I. should have encoded so we can prove that sci-fi writers and great thinkers of today are wrong about the coming apocalypse (yes, Stephen Hawking :P).
I know this sounds gimmicky beyond measure, but I assure you what I have here is really that versatile. It’s the perspective we all glimpse every once in a while in our best moments, but have somehow been unable to iterate as a method. It’s the one thing we have missed as we become a global society that, when incorporated, will finally help us shed the last remaining artifacts from our savage past and finally usher us into the new world of enlightened civility. It is so good, that following this, if we were to interact with extraterrestrials tomorrow we could actually have a productive peaceful conversation without starting an inter-galactic war.
The Golden Formula
And since calling it the ‘The interface for correct interaction of internal idealistic theoretical thoughts with the broader practical world and thoughts of others” is a mouth full, I am going to call it “The Golden formula of Wisdom”; the next iteration for the age-old Golden Rule.
So, now that I’m done selling this idea like a sleazy salesman, let’s get to what it actually is (yes ya lazy bums, there are pictures!).
Let’s say this is you (or me, or any person really). This little old person, in the giant cosmos, is you.
And you have thoughts. Which means you have formed ideas, dreams, opinions, concepts & rules about everything.
And that is the first underlying rule of this. Because you have a brain, you have an opinion an everything. Even if you haven’t heard of something, you have an opinion on it. Or will have it, the moment you hear it. That’s your brain’s job. To think. It has opinions and models. Since everything is really just built on everything else, your brain will automatically do it’s job and create an opinion on the topic based on other opinions on other topics. Now the opinion can even be an ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I need to ask someone’, but the point is the slot is not completely empty. You have ideas and so does everyone else. About EVERYTHING, no exceptions.
So, when you live in this world, you interact with other people. And like you, other people have their opinions & models. And since everything that can interact, has a ‘brain’. An interaction happens only between two brains, even if not a word is said and no idea shared. There is another brain on the other-side perceiving it. So, while you were making up your opinions, the other person was making up theirs. And when you both talk, the more commonalities the two brains have, the easier it is to interact. If both brains have developed opinions and models on the same path, the exchange is easier. It’s like talking in the same language, say English.
But, the different the two brains are, the harder it is for them to see the same thing. It’s like when two strangers talk in different languages. One is speaking in French and the other in Arabic. The only things communicated are ‘body language’ and ‘tones of voice’. But even there it is hard to tell the harshness of one language from the softness of the other. They are just, different. They measure each other based on what their compatible person would mean if they were communicating with that body language and tone. Or, to make it simple. It’s like opening a file in one software, that actually belonged to the other. This is what a ,jpg of Mona Lisa looks like if you opened it as a text file. Not quite as beautiful now is it.
So, our current problem is that we don’t have the right APIs in place to interact with other brains? Precisely. We need to find a way to make our thought compatible with their model so we can communicate data. Now this isn’t just about communicating between two people. This is also about interacting with other pockets of information like laws, foreign policy and even aliens. But I will get to that later. Just remember, everyone is right in their language. We need to find a bridge to discuss in each other’s languages.
So this means, that even though you might have the right answer, you can be wrong if you deliver it through the wrong gate. And that my friends, is actually the problem of our current time. We don’t realize how much different our brains have gotten. Unlike the villages before, we live in wildly different worlds now with wildly different cultures and because of that, we are not on the same time-gate. And that is why we can’t communicate that way.
So let me show you what the formula looks like so far.
I know this sounds like fake math (and it is), but I am trying to illustrate a point in as many languages as possible (see what I did there :P ). The bridge is the upper limit of the other. Assuming you are so much smarter than the other person and so far ahead, that they become a mere subset.
The second underlying rule is the idea that brain does have a gate and there is an upper limit! You cannot feed it just anything. You cannot just pull it to any idea, it is malleable but not infinitely so. And if you push a brain to a level outside what is possible within the time-gate, will get a back-lash. And the back-lash will be so much that instead of making progress, you will make things worse for everyone. If you share an idea too far within the time-gate, you will easily communicate it, but the interaction will be less efficient. So it needs to be at the outermost edge.
So, if you break down your idea and only discuss the subset of that idea that has the acceptable key to their time-gate , you will actually be able to communicate. And communicating at the uppermost limit will get you the best results.
+ Truth (or humility)
Hey, isn’t this looking awfully like talking to little kids? Talking on their level. Not making it complicated if you think they can’t understand it? Well in an eccentric abstract sense, yes that’s exactly what it is. However, we don’t want that to turn into a condescending exchange, because condescension is definitely not wise. So let’s make it complicate by finding a place for truth.
So, after understanding the idea that everyone is right in their language, you need to understand another idea; No one ever is. You see truth, and I mean absolute truth exists as infinity. No one has reached that and quite possibly no one ever will. Any idea that you think is right in this time will have been proven faulty in the next and was already faulty in the previous. So any idea, no matter how sensible, how divine, is untrue in a particular time. Leonardo Da Vinci was wrong, Einstein was wrong, Newton was wrong. All the folktales, the stories, the life lessons, the scientific theories, the laws of nature, the naysayers and legislators, all people who ever lived and will ever live are wrong. They were right in a relative sense, for a brief moment in time. But in the absolute sense, they were all just wrong. Equally.
And understanding that will help us understand that condescension is pointless, because we are just waiting to be proven wrong ourselves. I will put truth as infinitely bigger than all else.
That’s where the absolute form of truth and correctness exist. It’s infinity, so in this place we have utopias and aliens and immortality and everything is perfect in every sense. But this does not exist in any given time and every ‘time’ takes us towards it, without taking us any closer. So no one is ever right ad we need to keep in mind.
+ 3rd dimension (for depth)
The final element we need to add to this formula, is depth. I presented the simpler model because I didn’t want to make it confusing from the beginning. I want this particular piece to reach as many minds as possible. If you have come so far, here is the final step to this equation that should take you even beyond humility. This will help you understand this model in its true complexity. Time, is not linear and people cannot be charted on a singular plane. This model that I have where you are completely better than someone else and they become a complete subset of your superiority? Well this doesn’t exist. Reality is everyone is better than everyone at something and worse at something. And measuring the net effect of it all is too complex to understand. So let’s make this 3D, and add some depth!
This is what the model looks like. You have an upper-bound and they have an upper-bound. and it’s impossible to tell whose is further, and it’s impossible to tell who is closer to the truth. And really it is irrelevant because the truth is infinitely far away so being somewhat closer to infinity is still not close at all. So now what do we do? How do we bridge together now? Well, this is the most brilliant part. The Bridge is where an extension of your idea meet’s with the extension of an other idea over a common measurable plane. The point where they both meet, no matter what they are comparing, is the point where we maximize the area under the curve. The point where both limits interact, where the change achieved from a discussion is the highest. That point, my friends, is wisdom. That is the point that we need to find in every interaction of two ideas.
You know what this means? That there is no ‘agree to disagree’. That there is no right or wrong. There is no one solution. The solution is merely a mix of what both parties can accept at the height of their compromise. It seems weird, but at the end of the day a 50% gain on either side is more than none altogether. You can’t view it as what you did not get. You have to only view it as what we both now have. Because in the end what you have by yourself (the gold line) is really not there at all. It’s a ghost of what is possible, and realizing that is the key to this newer sense of awareness. What is real is that which is common. Which is shared by both, the area under the curve. This makes compromise a winning strategy, to be exact, the only strategy. Because we can only measure the blue area, and it helps you understand that a push beyond what is capable for the other person no matter how forced, will only bear a negative result but it won’t exist in this world, only in your head.
Now this is a little hard to illustrate in all it’s depth. It’s not just because this is a newer idea of what a win is, but also because we often think we are comparing apples and oranges. Things so different, there is no comparison. Well the reality is, they are all a perception of the truth and if you go far back enough, you will find a common plane. We have to lay them out on that same plane so we can find what is better. So let’s actually compare apples and oranges!
I am avoiding using real concepts, because I want to leave those for all the blog posts below. I gotta save some candy for later! The more you see this being used the better you will understand it. And the quicker you can prove me wrong with your truth of a higher time-gate.
Anyways, if we make a chart of apple and oranges over a common theme of say, benefits over time. We can assume that apples are more effective, the more you eat them – ‘An apple a day keeps the doctor away’. As for the orange, let’s assume it diminishes the value over time. Because of weight-loss from their higher satiety index? (yes I know I’m pushing it lol) or anything really. What combination of apples and oranges will give you the best result? Well, if your point is to go all apple and theirs to go all orange and both the choices lie outside each others limits. Then you need to extend them and find the point of wisdom. Oh I mean the golden point of wisdom :D (which here is grey! smh.)
You see, the apple fan boys (ha!) will never switch to orange and the orange maniacs will never go apple. In the new model we both know that it is almost impossible to tell which one is more true and really it is irrelevant because ∞. Then the only way to move forward is to find the point where the apple guys and the orange guys can compromise the most. Any demand outside of that will be demeaning and rejected and anything less will be a bad negotiation. And even if you do know that all apples are better than all oranges, discussing that with them would be like discussing giving votes to women during the emancipation proclamation! So the best option still is the same golden point of wisdom.
And THAT, my friends, is the formula to exist in today’s globalized-polarized-diversified world where brains have moved too far apart on different paths and exist in different times.
So we have a model, where there is absolute truth as the infinite. An unreachable reality that exist far away at almost an infinite time-gate.
We have you, with your perception of the truth. Because the truth is infinity and there is no infinite time-gate in the finite brain. You can only gain a mere perspective of it. Slowly and over time. By building on others’ time-gates. This shadow of sorts, of the actual truth, is your current language. It represents your current time-gate.
Everyone has a brain and therefore everyone has a time-gate. They all look at shadows of the actual infinite truth. This is where, Einstein, Da Vinci, Newton and everyone who ever was & will be, lives. Everyone here has built on different time-gates and reached different perspectives. The time-gate differences are greater today because we didn’t realize it when we were busy globalizing. But now that we understand this and we understand the human constraint of only growing time-gates and not jumping them. We need a to connect.
This way of connecting is the ‘bridge’. It works as a normalizer. We need it so we can convert ideas and models from our perception of the truth to their perception of the truth in a way that sends only the compatible information. By doing this, we start changing their time-gates, and they start changing ours. This way we can finally grow in the fastest practical way till we can bring everyone to such close proximity in time-gates that we can transcend individuality, culture, nationalism. And do it by celebrating it and incorporating it in a collective time-gate that we can once again share. And then grow exponentially from there on into infinity (woot!).
Phew, let’s take a break here. This was a lot to take in. But really this is what wisdom is. To deal with others, not how you want them to deal with you, but the best possible way they can accept being dealt with (take that Golden Rule!). And following this we can revamp all that we know and come up with newer, simpler, adaptable models that instantly solve our biggest problems, ourselves!
So let’s do this!! What does all the jargon about time-gates and mental bridges mean? I applied this formula in the list below so you can get an idea. Seriously, go take a look. I promise these are really short. Easy to just skim through. I’ve ranked with the most interesting on top: (some are incomplete still :P)
- The right perspective for foreign policy
- Redefining justice and change the face of how we create laws
- The perfect way to understand leadership
- The missing piece that all A.I. should have so I can challenge Stephen Hawking (aha! lol)
- A personal moral system
- To have discussion without having arguments
- To measure the value of all historic figures without bias
Question on Quora: What are some things or activities I can do to truly grow as a person?
Quora thinks I am one of the top people to answer this… so I am going to try to make it the best I can give. Dude, I know its long but just do it!
What I am going to write here, might sound too simple. It’s not using any crazy buzz words and might not even have many quotable lines…. So try to let it sink despite all that. This is a process and I am fairly certain, this is what most people go through.
You must only accept the truth. You need to promise me, you won’t stop till you get to the bitter truth of everything and if you ever find that you are wrong, admit it out loud to yourself and then the person… right then and there.
Now keeping that in mind read this all, deliberate on it for a while and then read it again after a couple days.
To truly grow as a person, to truly be more than just a version of the average, you need to understand that currently whoever you are is not you. And then slowly deconstruct yourself till there is nothing left.
How to destroy yourself (~ 1-2 months of work)
This is quite possibly the most important and the hardest step. You need to destroy yourself; not to be mistaken with self-hate. This is you don’t get trapped in any legacy thinking. Legacy thought will make some areas very hard to re-build because you think they are a part of you. But growing even a bit in these areas will grow you more overall than in areas you are already good.
Often very hard to do alone. So find someone who has already done this and use there help to do the follow:
1. Face your shameful evils (don’t go easy on yourself)
There is a lot of conscious and ‘subconscious’ data in your brain. You know it, but you wont admit it to yourself because it shows a side of you that you do not like. I want you to start finding those ones… try making it easier to point out that you are doing something terrible every now and then. Just dig deep and admit the worst… no need to change it. That later, just admit it!
- People you unnecessarily mistreat.. because you can.
- People you are biased against because you are jealous.
- People you are biased against because they are ugly.
- People you are biased against but don’t even know why!
- Guys/girls you ‘string’ along.
- Your inner racist/sexist etc.
- Your inner ugliness
The whole point is to know you have it and face it. Even better to recognize it while you are doing it. Realize it when you are using the person while you are staring at their face, or when you are belittling them or anything like that. Just understand the you are exactly the person you hate in others in other situations!!
This, usually takes a couple months.. and you need to keep digging. Digging till makes you cry a few times or makes you feel like shit! If you are a girl you will feel like shit first, don’t stop there, keep going till you cry. If you are a guy, you might not cry, but you need to keep going till after… to the point you finally find peace.
You will reach a point where you understand that every little bit of filth you find… you are able to map it and possibly get rid of. Because I have said it you will feel like you have reached this point… but NO, don’t stop till it REALLY hit you. admit it that it hasn’t and keep going. You are still on step one.
Then it becomes actually a rewarding thing to find your mistakes and ironically, you feel better every time you do.
2. Break mental barriers
- Barriers are these stories we keep telling ourselves to keep ourselves from falling apart. Sometimes for motivation, sometimes to calm ourselves.
- You will feel like you are doing something out of the goodness of your heart. No! admit that is a lie, keep figuring out the truth.
- You will realize you are actually past the first step here and you are feeling the calm. No! it is a lie, keep figuring out the truth.
- You will realize some new things you have learned about yourself and you start seeing them in others. You won’t admit it but you feel superior. No! admit that is a lie because you are undoing #1, you are rebuilding yourself already. No! start from the beginning.
- You will have a muffled feeling in your head, while you are debating on something that you actually don’t know what you are talking about… BREAK IT! and admit it. Aloud, to that person.
- You will have a hidden feeling that you have advice for someone, but you actually don’t follow it… BREAK IT! and admit it. Aloud, to that person.
- You will start realizing that some things you say, (out of habit) and even your parents, teachers and friends say are total BS! BREAK it! and admit it. Aloud, to that person. But wait, don’t start getting disgusted by them for how stupid they are for not knowing their own deceit.. you are ruining step 1. No! admit that is evil, keep figuring out the truth.
Finally, you reach a point where you think start enjoying that feeling. The feeling of quickly stopping your own self mis-sentence, of an enthusiastic rant that you are wrong about and talking bullshit, to correct yourself.
You start correcting yourself. Swiftly, to the shock of you and people around you. And you like that bit of shock. it start moving in your thoughts too. You start correcting your thoughts.
3. Understand who you are
You have to reach a certain point of emptiness so you can get rid of all the biases and all the things holding you back. Then you need to learn to dream… but to dream, you need to learn more. If you are on quora, you already read a lot. I want you to connect with what you read. I want you to be able to understand the alienation of all the great people that have reached this point. Not everyone who reached this point is great. But rest assured, all great people have reached this. This is where you find who you are! Every bit of it. The you who has always been. Find patterns of your habits of your life thought childhood and then adapt them.
Read this and complete the worksheet. (I’m serious! I know it sounds dumb):
They key to happiness is personality flaws – Huzaifa Sial
Now you know who you are, now you can finally dream in peace and be who you want to be. And to make it happen you gotta keep doing the 3 things.
- Destroy all negative things you start developing
- Keep breaking all the barriers so you stay on your toes
- Dream, Learn and adapt all of it to your personality.
Now, are different. Now you know exactly what you need to do to grow. What area, how, what is good for you. Now, all questions about you, you can find in others and answer for yourself!
…the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
There is no good or evil, only the most productive option. Justice is the manifestation of that, and the best way to reach justice is to temper it with wisdom. You have to find the closest answer to the truth, the most extreme form of justice you can find and then find the highest point on the line that everyone is ready to accept. Pushing everyone to their limit of justice is great leadership; everything over, alienation; and everything under mediocrity. Judge the leader of yesterday by how close to the mental limit they pushed their people, not by your highest current ambition. What someone did not do right is easier to point out, there are always infinite answers, but that is why its not helpful in measuring greatness. The only thing you can measure is what they achieved compared to the highest level of enlightenment their people were ready to accept. Only in this can we find appreciation for what wisdom truly is.
Every right leads to a responsibility. The battle is to get the right acknowledged; the war is to generate the responsibility that right imposes. We fight for the right, but then take a break immediately after. We say that the world has changed forever, and yet, we still get up the same way tomorrow? Have we not the foresight to see the problem.
It takes hundreds and hundreds of years for a change in policy to reflect a change in behavior. We write documents of law, but no manuals for life. We have democracy, but have yet to find a out how to use it responsibly. We have no slavery, and yet entire races a trapped in their own inability to discard the effects of the past. We have gender-equality, and yet we cannot raise our girls so they are equally valuable.
When you ask for the right, think of the responsibility. When you don’t, you create a bigger problem… more pernicious & harder to see. How can you make your vote valuable? Your race valuable? Your gender valuable? How can we help them get to the point where their right is truly valuable; So we can’t just buy it on a whim!
This millennium is the last. In a world of complexity the answers are just painfully simple. While you work to move away, work too to find yourself in the here. Never again will you stand in your origins. Never again will you know your family. Never again, will you meet the maker. The force that drives. The force that so simply explains the why. the force you see now around you, the soul of who you are. Never again will you meet it. Walk up to it today, acknowledge it, understand it’s intent. Never again, will you be so close to the source.
Go out sometimes. Go out and touch a tree, smell the rain, eat a leaf, feel the flowers. Go out on grass. Go and find yourself among family.
Life moves in circles, like waves crashing in to each other forming infinity. The world is only but a mirage, formed with you at it’s center… and wherever you stop looking, it stops existing.
Don’t pity the humble painter. He can be lord of all things. Whatever exists in the universe, he has first in his mind, and then in his hand.
My list of “possible” posts & ideas is growing faster than I can get to write. So maybe this time, I will take a different approach. Maybe I will create “ghosts of done” and have some thing published. Something, no matter how scattered dis-jointed and brief. It is better to have them out then to not at all. And maybe I can leave my future self some hidden notes and explanations that can come back to, if I ever need to properly layout these thoughts. So, from here on out. My posts will be brief, but often. and if the ideas holds clout, maybe I will consider writing it properly so it is more digestible for the world. This motivation also comes from watching a documentary on Da Vinci. His notes included absolutely any and everything he cared for. From random comments to finish prototype blue-prints to lists of things to figure out. And now we are glad for it, for no man has the time to create everything he dreams.. but fortunately for us, this doesn’t stop him from dreaming.
I often think about this quote told to me by a dear friend (and I wouldn’t want to be among the people described here):
It is unfortunate that the wealthiest place on the planet is the graveyard. For in the graveyard we will find inventions that never were; ideas that still remain; and dreams that were never acted upon.
So, I am going to start posting even the raw thoughts
Raise your ‘self’ to such heights, that before issuing every decree of destiny, even God would ask you: “Tell me what your wish is?”
Nothing is too wonderful to be true, if it be consistent with the laws of nature.
It is unfortunate that the wealthiest place on the planet is the graveyard. For in the graveyard we will find inventions that never were; ideas that still remain; and dreams that were never acted upon.
Human life (through the lens of time) is a continuous set of complex transactions; each transaction has a cost and a return. These decisions are interlinked, they bounce around through time being impacted by other decisions & their costs until some finally cascade back into your life. The key to happiness is to know what your personality costs, so you can have some understanding of how these rays will re-enter your life. This way you get to be who you are, for a long time and with the least resistance from the rest of the world.
Like most of my other ramblings, this too is a mere thought crumb. Unsubstantiated by any real data or research (someday?), it’s more of an idea to model into personal lives than public arenas. A small guide to an elevated attitude, and maybe a happier existence.
So what is happiness?
Is it to help others or to be content? to work hard or to never complain? With hundreds of quotes, guides and books to tell you what you need to change in your life to be happy which one is the correct one? To some degree they all are, but in reality – I think none. While one advice might be true for one, it might not be for another.
If we examine the human world with its diverse personalities, varied life-styles and distinct circumstances, we will find that happiness favors no particular group. You can find people skipping around in poverty-stricken areas while the wealthy take a couple of Prozacs a day to survive.
So happiness knows no currency. Within physiological norms, it is independent of the physical world. And no particular life-stage, gender or race necessarily has it better. This makes it tough to understand, but easier to implement :) . In the greater sense, happiness to me is a state-of-mind. Independent of what the circumstances are around you, but highly depended on what the circumstances are to you. You might have heard people say that you can always trace the reason for a problem. Like a path tracing back to a single moment. This tell us a lot about the nature of humans and how we understand problems. I’ll leave the nature for a later post, but our understanding of problems is what hides the understanding to happiness.
Life as a series of transactions.
Human life (through the lens of time) is a continuous set of complex transactions. Every moment a decision (transaction) is made, a price paid and a result (good/bad) acquired. So each transaction has a cost and a return. These decisions are interlinked, they bounce around through time being impacted by other decisions & their costs, like light in a hall of mirrors. Each mirror slightly altering the original ray until some finally cascade back into your life, while the rest continue.
When and how these costs cascade are what I think is the secret to happiness. So if you stay up late one-night, you pay the price in hours of sleep. The next morning, you can either sleep-in and bounce the price further in time, or get-up early and cash in the price in hours of sleep. If you bounce it further it can impact your work-hours (your deadlines) or your personal hours (your relationships).
If humans were devoid of heart and full of head. We would be able to choose this. And if there is a choice, then we would always choose the most logical option. Pick the right time to cash it out the price. Always work when we have to, sleep when we should and party on your allotted times. But humans can’t always choose. We can’t always optimize every decision… if it were the case, we would all end up on the same conclusions. We are diverse and so are our decisions. There isn’t a single answer any one person will pick to a single situation. But there are patterns to these choices and these patterns are what become our personalities.
Lowering expectations gives you fake happiness.
A lazy person will always delay the work, a short-tempered person will consistently escalate the situation and a stubborn person will always resist change. So how can we be lazy, short-tempered, stubborn and still be happy? By knowing that we are these things and expecting them to be a constant part of our life. It’s similar to lowering expectations; which might be the reason you can find some of the most happiest people in some of the most dire places.
PS: I consider this form of happiness a coincidence of adversity and not the true solution. Adversity naturally pushes expectations lower to the point where there is little else that can go wrong and the only way is up. It’s a sign of defeat; a man with low-expectation never accomplishes anything great! It’s also an impossible task to accomplish outside of adversity. I’m the happiest man alive on a single meal, when facing a drought in Africa. But you can expect a scowl if my Tim’s Steeped-Tea isn’t a double-double.
A lazy person with the key to happiness.
If I’m inherently lazy (obviously fiction :P), I should know this. There isn’t anything wrong in enjoying bumming around, all I need to know is the cost I pay. The cost of being lazy is the stress that comes close to deadlines, the frustration of people who are expecting you to deliver and the embarrassment when people call you out on it! This bit of self-awareness lets you enjoy the lazy bits and handle the costs well. I can now change my expectations to include the constant embarrassment I will carry throughout life for my laziness, all the while knowing the sweet sweet addiction of the few extra hours of sleep. I can now also smile at my problems and expect them. Maybe I will start pulling allnighters close to deadlines. Maybe I will compensate for other’s frustration by sweetening the pot and delivering more than expected. Heck, I will even join the embarrassment next time, crack a few jokes… tell them how I can sweeten the pot and get on to it. And once I am done will all this, I can go back to enjoying extra sleep and little work for days on end.
And one day!
And one day, when the cost for being lazy gets higher than the return and I can’t power-through, top-up and laugh through my personality flaws I will always know the fun I had while I could be lazy and happily exchange one flaw for another! So in the end, happiness is identifying your costs of being you and learning to make adjustments using your strengths. You get to be who you are, for a long time and with least resistance you from the rest of the world – the key to happiness.
For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return.
-Leonardo da Vinci
Life is either held by rules, or holds purpose. Those that have rules don’t require the burden of a purpose and those with a purpose are only hindered by rules.
The funny thing is, of the two groups only the latter truly lives. This makes the first group mere actors in the other’s lives. The combination of multiples of these lives create enough space for society to hold both the groups. By themselves though, each life only ever requires a small fraction of the whole. So a human with a purpose would not need the entire society to have a fulfilling life. With every waking moment pushing towards a goal, the journey itself can contain a fulfilling life. This narrow focus of a purposed life then makes most rules meaning-less (and most of society) making others only a hindrance because they either lie outside of that life, or in its path.
Human experience is so limited, that it can never taste the entirety of the universe; the breath of which is astronomical. This would mean, that if we only live when we have a purpose and having a purpose narrows the need for an elaborate life than by definition, life is not meant to be experienced in breadth. Varied experiences are a result of varied actions, and varied actions are not helpful in a defined purpose. This leaves only one choice: To live life completely, one would have to live it with an extreme participation in the depth of the moment. That is the only life that can be both fulfilling and enriched.
Edited to include updated thoughts: As I try to live by this, I realize this thinking ‘to live the depth over breadth‘ requires an extraordinary amount of humility. Living the breadth is somehow the same as living-large… it inflates the ego and let’s you boost your self-esteem. It allows you to convince yourself of your amazing life (by the sheer variety of experiences); while living the depth forces you to think now, to find immense meaning and pleasure in the ‘ordinary’ moments (reduces the quantity over quality). With so many goals and aspirations projected on to the future, living in the present might be harder than it seems.
‘Who are we? We find that we live on an insignificant planet of a humdrum star lost in a galaxy tucked away in some forgotten corner of a universe in which there are far more galaxies than people.” – Carl Sagan
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi
At the eve of right, he got out
to have a bit of a Sunday stroll
Airing out in many a thought
till he came across a rabbit hole
Dark n’ think the air had felt
inquisitive mind and a spirit bold
What secret had the blackness kept?
A sagacious worm, a gold brick road?!
The curious hand grasped down the pit
no time to glimpse, no thought to hold
Before the mind knew what it did
before it had a chance to gloat
Down he went, deep in the ditch
thick air around- a black abyss
High up was now the tiny hole
that came across his aimless stroll
No longer the child, the eyes had seen
the secrets it wished had not been
No longer could the mind now fit
the tiny hole that led it in
– Huzaifa Sial
Q: Is it good to be honest all the time? Or does it depend on situation one is in?
For example, in your work place, you make a small mistake, and cause some problems (which are not very critical). But it will take some time to resolve those problems.Only you knows that it is caused by your actions. Your boss and your colleagues come down and found out the problem, ask you about the problem. You have two options, to cover up your a** and lie or simply admit your mistake . What will you do?
Answer by Huzaifa Sial:
Honesty is good, no doubt. But I can certainly see where honesty can cause damage.
Lying or withholding the truth. I think ‘withholding truth’ is a better word because it signifies the ‘physics’ of a lie. Truth always comes out, all you can do is manage it. Outright lying means making an extravagant story and it hardly reminds the person how dependent on the truth a lie is. So lying is dumb, it’s self-delusional in my opinion. Withholding the truth is still different (even if you make up a story to do it).
Sometimes you have to ‘withhold the truth’ while you get others ready or manage the situation. Blind anything is not better, but we seem to think so. Blind honesty certainly not (think relationships). If you are smart, you should be able to figure out when you are being honest because it is the ‘right’ thing and when you are doing it because it is the ‘easy’ thing.
The situation above is no exception. If you understand the personality of your boss and understand the situation everyone is in, you can decide what is better -to tell the truth now or ‘withhold it’ for later. In an extreme case, you would get fired for doing something benign only because your boss has an unjustly harsh personality or the time was extremely stressful for everyone (changing their decision making). And if you would have waited for a better time, no one would have even flinched at it. So, understanding the situation is always the key.
Honesty to self though, is a different story. Under no-circumstances do I see lying to yourself having any advantages (as children yes, as adults, no.). The reason people say lying is a slippery slope/pernicious is because people start believing their lie. If you are honest to yourself about every situation and honestly know why you are ‘withholding the truth’ and for how long, it can be managed. If you are honest to yourself you won’t let it turn into a habit, won’t let yourself believe the truth will forever be hidden and won’t give yourself credit for being ‘clever’ because you covered up something you handled so miserably, you could not even share it.
“Questions about whether design is necessary or affordable are quite beside the point: design is inevitable. The alternative to good design is bad design, not no design at all.” – Book Design: A Practical Introduction by Douglas Martin
Make sure others are productive before you are.
Before you start on your share of work, make sure everyone you are responsible for has everything they need to do theirs. That’s how you get leverage.
There is no good or evil. There is only truth. The closer to truth something is, the easier it is to see it as good. This however, does not stop us from making something good even of it is far far away. To judge something as bad is a flawed concept! You cannot punish the murderer or the thief. It was not their choice to be born in a world where they were the nth child. Statistics shows no mercy.
But then again, you cannot punish the bithers and raisers either…. They weren’t smart enough to see the truth in the first place.
There is no evil. Misery cannot bring serenity. A false action sows no benefit.
If your reasoning is sound, he will come to same conclusion as yours. And if it is not, he will take you to the right one.
Before I even begin, I understand that every situation is unique and human beings are too complex to be explained by just one reason. And even the reasons and explanations that we come-up with, are highly biased. They tell us more about ourselves than the rest of the world. That being said, I think I can outline one reason why it’s easier to convince children to agree with you than adults and especially the more intelligent ones. It has to do with increased intelligence. To agree with an alternative view point, the person needs:
- See the faults in his existing view.
- Be convinced of the new one’s superiority.
And to be convinced with the new perspective, he has to know that the alternative is absolutely better than his own thought. So why is it harder for adults to accept the superiority of another argument when it is easier for them to follow logic? You can easily say it’s ego, but I want to propose a less damning reason. The reason it is hard for us to be convinced of something new, is precisely because of how developed our brains are. Sounds counter-intuitive? Just humor me for a bit. The thing with our “highly developed brain”s is; they can think of a lot of the different ways you can evaluate a argument. That means before we form an opinion, we have thought of various other ways we can interpret the data and form an opinion. Are Lamborghinis better or Ferraris? Well, before I even think of an answer, my brain goes through a quick session of back & forth argumentation.
Lamborghinis are better looking – But Ferraris are classier! Ferraris have more power – But Lambo’s have amazing breaks!
While we are going through this process, we come up with a lot of different arguments and assign each of them a weight in our decision. Not to be confused with personal preference (which is obviously happening), this weight I mention is more for the argument than the personal preference for the value within it (i.e. Looks vs. Power). Even if we already have selected our preference for Lamborghinis before the argument, we still go through this trying to justify it objectively to the other person. So, the reason we come to a particular decision is more dependent on the weight we give to facts rather than the facts themselves. Adult brains are smart enough to only come up with reasonable and believable arguments, but not wise enough to come-up with the right weight for each argument.
What I am trying to say is… when you try to convince an intelligent person, you will state facts that he or she already knows. Telling him the benefits that he is aware of gives more confidence to him. He gets the illusion he’s heard it all! The reply will be the same he gave himself when he had this argument in his head. And if you do the same, then everyone is just stating what’s already in their head. So how do we break this mutual cycle of unintended confirmation? By coming up something new. If I have “heard it all”, no obvious fact can change my decision. So the choice is to either come up with something absolutely new or come up with a way to help the me change the way I weigh the existing facts. Get the person to see why your assigned values are the right way to evaluate. Change that, and you create a paradigm shift! To change the opinion, you need to find the the core subjective reason why the obvious is being perceived differently. And once you can convince a person to value the facts the way you value them, they will do arrive at the same decision you do, while feeling like they arrived there themselves (which takes care of the ego problem).
In short; it’s hard for adults to agree because they have “heard it all before!”. What you need to work on is how to change the way they “process” what they already now.
In my opinion, experiences are like raw data to the brain. They have scores of information, but it’s all jumbled up into a cocktail of useful/useless, new/old, good/bad information. Our brain takes it all in, and works on it over time. Some patterns become visible instantly while others take more time and additional experiences to formulate. But getting an experience is still far superior than just having a conversation, reading a book or discussing an idea. An experience embody’s all this, along with the raw data you need to create original patterns of understanding.
Our brain takes it all in, and works on it over time. Some patterns become visible instantly while others take more time and additional experiences to formulate.
At this point, maybe I should define what I mean by experience. To me, an experience is a journey. Let’s say you are interested in learning about human motivation. One way would be to read about it, or watch RSA animate videos on it. Another would be to do all that, but also to actually go out and start a project where you will need to carry out the type of motivation you are trying to understand. The first 2 methods (read/watch) are pre-distilled forms of information. We stored them in our brain and try to create patterns using them as blueprints. This information is good and quick, but it’s depth is equally limited. Combine this information with a self-enrolling experiment and you will end up with solid patterns of understanding as well as the raw data you need to create genuine thought.
So don’t just acquire formulated data to store in your brain. Get out, pick a theme and go get that experience. Collect that raw data to throw at your brain, and let it crunch out the rest at its own pace. Your brain is a fascinating tool, use it for more than just memory. The outcomes you get this way will be amazing on a whole new level!
Human beings have one thing that separates them from the rest. You may argue its intelligence, the opposable thumb, our control over our surrounding, or even luck. But I think there is something more fundamental. Its motivation. We as a species are DRIVEN. More so than anything else. Humans are neither the fastest, strongest, biggest, tallest, baddest or scariest things in the world. Hell we die of mosquito bites and low self-esteem all the time. But as a whole, we are motivated. Driven to make an impact. Driven to achieve and evolve. And the days you realize that are the best of days.
I have used a lot as motivation in my life. Race, religion, circumstance, my own abilities, fantasies and dreams. But the best days are the ones where you don’t need any of that. You don’t need them because you have something better. Another person. Another human being
just like much better than you. Whose mere existence an inspiration. A single interaction pushes you forward. Gives you the motivation to come home, read, work, exercise, write a blog, do better, BE BETTER. And it might last you a while, or it might not. Either way… good to know it’s there!
For girls, gaining value through appearance has instant returns… but in a twisted way of fate, this short-cut becomes the very reason they experience unappreciaton. Because in the long run, the newness erodes the inflated effect of appearance, and the newness of ‘others’ increases theirs. So the only way to keep respect is to use the inflated control they have over guys when they are new, to re-enforce the value of their personality not appearance. That is really the only sustainable competitive advantage any one of us can hold. Appearance is easier to rate and inflates the value of the ‘new’ one, especially if the judge is a guy (blame biology). Personality is too complex to rate on a glimpse and gives advantage to the known over the unknown.
So, I have 4 designs. All spun from getting feedbacks from people. I want you to tell me what’s your favorite choice, Choice 2, Choice 3. Put it in the comments if the poll doesn’t work.
Here are the Concepts! Click to enlarge
With half the world’s population under poverty, constant starvation, disease & disaster, I cannot think of a more greater need in the world we live in today than to simply do more good. I thought to myself.. “if I could empower people to do good everyday, that would simply be the best product the world can have”
So I went on this mission that lead me to found a company called Fundraid. Fundraid enables collective masses to simply do good, without any extra effort, money or time. It is an online fundraising platform that lets you collect free money for various social initiatives by simply surfing the web! It works as a tiny application on your browser that manages your ads while you browse the websites you already do today. This allows users to view high quality ads of products that are actually relevant to them, while simultaneously allowing advertisers to finally connect with their customers online. The money from this social advertising is distributed to the users who can donate their earnings towards various charitable projects of their choice. The cool part of this is, that as a user, you never have to go to any specific website, click on any ad or even get bombarded with unwanted distractions. It’s a pure, clean approach to advertising that has no effect on your surfing experience, while providing you with higher quality ads and opportunity to fulfill your philanthropic intentions.
We hope to use this crowd-sourced method of social fundraising to allow people all over the world to pitch-in, raise money and contribute to social initiatives on a single platform. Fundraid truly brings the power to the people in making the world better.
Fundraid is in a very exciting phase right now. We recently hit 500 users on our alpha version, and move towards unveiling the newly designed beta iteration of this platform. We are excited to bring more social projects on board and use the valuable feedback of our pioneers to build a better, more organic way of making a world-wide difference from their own laps.
It has been an interesting journey, and there is still a long way to go. Through all the amazing experiences and learning opportunities, the Fundraid team has learned a great deal from all the support available in the region of Waterloo. The Communitech Hub, and especially Laurier’s new Entrepreneur Accelerator program are great opportunities for student’s like me to go out and a make a difference of their own.
In the end, I am excited for what the future holds. This new era of social connectivity and instant accessibility to knowledge holds a key to an endless array of opportunities that wasn’t available to individuals my age in the generations before. As we grow into this world and start to shape the world into our imagination, I am excited to see what comes and glad to say that if you would like to help solve the world problems…there’s an app for that! So go out and get it.
Audacity: Sounds Editing
Photohsop: Text Layers
After Effects: Animation
This is just a screen capture of me making “Fundraid Info Session: How to change the world!” (below). I learned audacity on the spot for this one ( You can see me paused inbetween to see a youtube tutorial). My first ever typography video :)
I made some changes to the photoshop text layers after, which are not rin the video.. but everything else works :)
Fourth year business student Huzaifa Sial talks to The Cord about the ups and downs of running his charitable business
Huzaifa Sial, a fourth year student at Wilfrid Laurier University, began his journey to success as a science whiz in high school. Though it was a strong suit for him, Sial realized that he couldn’t see himself doing it for the rest of his life and began to search for other options. After coming to Laurier to study business, Sial was soon intrigued by the field, thus sparking a dream to establish an enterprise of his own.
Sial’s inspiring venture is called Fundraid, which first became a reality a year ago. Fundraid is a social enterprise that requires consumers to set up an account that tracks their activity on Facebook or other sites online. The user’s online activity raises money for a charity of their choice by putting a portion of advertisement revenue from the user clicks towards that charity. Fundraid uses their users’ consumer profile and web interests to serve those interested in purchasing online advertisements. On average 50 per cent of profile revenue through ad interaction is donated to the user’s charity of choice and from ads specifically on Fundraid’s website, 80 per cent is donated.
“The most common thing that people do is just spend time online. You watch movies, read blogs and some studies show that we spend forty hours a week online,” Sial rationalized. “I thought, what if I use that model somehow to have everyone’s time online monetized into value. And that’s where it ended up”.
Sial credits the success of Fundraid to Communitech, an organization that helps and supports entrepreneurs and their ideas, as it helped him to not only further develop the concept of Fundraid but also enabled the recognition. Sial has a space at Communitech and is able to interact with others who are involved.
Although pulling a few all-nighters, Sial has accomplished a lot of work in regards to the launch of Fundraid, simply because Communitech provides him with sufficient resources.
While Fundraid has provided success, Sial admits that entrepreneurship is an emotional battle. Starting a business and trying to make it a reality is like standing in the middle of uncertainty, Sial has explained. Comparing it to “Bipolarity”, Sial has had many ups and down, where he feels like no one is listening to his idea and wonders if it is going anywhere. Remembering why he started the business gets him through the difficult times.
“Fundraid is something I am really passionate about, so I talked about it with my friends. Every now and then, they ask you about it or someone else asks you about it. When I explain the concept to them and they give me the reinforcement, and it makes me realize why I am doing this,” Sial answered.
When looking into the future of Fundraid, Sial sees Fundraid as being one of the most popular ways of advertising and revolutionizing the standard of how advertisements are done online. Sial also wants his establishment to move from just giving money to charities to allowing other social businesses to raise money for the charities. Sial hopes to remain a person who develops ideas and to create a powerful movement.
“I consider Fundraid as my beginning, this is my start. Hopefully, it will get me to a point that I want to go,” Sial concluded.