The maintenance of self-esteem is a continuous task that taxes all of the individual’s power and inner resources. We have to prove our worth and justify our existence anew each day.
While living in different cultures may lead some to confusion and some to abandonment, if experienced properly, it can lead to wisdom not generally available to either. Each new culture will entice you with its freedoms and with its comforts in excuses. The only thing to keep in mind, is to not loose yourself to them. Instead, if you are able to see past these and peer into the responsibility they imply, you'll be able to see the beauty of generations of wisdom that lead them there. Take it, absorb those ideas and stand proud for learning the best of both.
The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.
Increasingly I realize that there are two basic underlying sources to much of human thoughts and behaviors. Those that stem from rigidness (habits discipline, preferences etc.) I call dark patterns, and those that stem from openness (empathy, flow, flexibility etc.), light. Many are naturally inclined towards one and it shapes much of their thoughts, actions and outcomes. Through life we constantly try to improve ourselves by focussing on specific traits like extroversion vs. introversion, or saying yes more than no. But it may be more prudent to focus on the source of these behaviors in others and ourself rather then the manifestations to perfect the mix and not the symptoms. In an idealist's world, I would advocate for total light patterns but being effective in reality demands a basic structure of rigidness and dark patterns to hold the light. The pattern of your structure will be unique to you but the goal should be to have the least amount of rigidness that can sustain the openness. I hope to always keep openness to full; sprinkle in rigidness as needed and crush the bad parts of both light and dark the moment they appear.
Simply put, meaningfulness comes from contributing to other people, whereas happiness comes from what they contribute to you. This runs counter to some conventional wisdom.
It's all of them - fear, sadness, confusion, hurt, joy, contentment; all the unexpected patterns, all the chaos. Working to avoid one will dim all the others. The goal is the journey, the reason is us... and above all else, happiness is an obligation.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.
...the jaw-dropping gorgeousness of the turning orb, like a self-propelled art gallery of fantastic constantly changing beauty, that is the world itself.
We can always be ordinarily civil, even if we cannot always be absolutely wise.
The ability to forgive oneself... is the key to making art, and very possibly the key to finding any semblance of happiness in life.
If you observe gender roles in the South Asian cultures (but maybe the greater world as well), you will quickly realize that all the social pressures, expectations, encouragements & transgressions are linked to two very simple underlying ideas. Women are responsible for protecting 'face' and men are responsible for increasing it. It's on these ideas that we judge, teach and raise our generations. How they dress, behave and model themselves are directly related to these 'responsibilities'. Men are casually forgiven transgressions of disgrace, while women are allowed lives of minimal contribution. One is pressured to be proper, while the other to perform. And although each might be equally incomplete, the pressure for protection curbs the ability to perform more than the opposite. And if you think hard enough, you will realize that it's not the boys that need to be taught how to respect girls as much as it's the parents who need to learn how to raise them both. Teach girls to make you proud & boys to not be the reason for disgrace - and then hold them both to it. Teaching responsibility correctly will lead to respect, doing the opposite isn't working fast enough.
The self is the friend of a man who masters himself through the self, but for a man without self-mastery, the self is like an enemy at war.
The greatest demonstration of power and security is to actually make oneself defenseless, to become as comfortable with one’s weaknesses as possible.
As far as your self-control goes, as far goes your freedom.
It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
It gives me comfort, that my strong ability to self-delude is matched only by my inability to think well. This way, I am easily derailed from living in my right by the obvious flaws in my ideas.
Human life is a fickle balance. We are beings of contradiction and of disproportionate capacities. We have the ability to see the future, but not enough to give us comfort; the gift of understanding, but not knowing for certain; and a life with a million possibilities, without any rhyme or reason to what is enough and why at all?!!
So we know how the golden formula changes foreign policy. It’s more about teaching and less about enforcing. But what about law, where everything is about enforcement. How does it change that. Well, let’s build the same idea again.
We don’t know the truth. The truth changes as quickly as perspective. And law is the way we provide perspective. It is the way we currently enforce structure & morality. But the biggest problem with today’s law is
Leadership is one of the most discussed concepts here in the West. There is something about being relatively better-off that pushes our brain to the conclusion that we can also lead others into this. To a certain degree, it is right… because you need to see the better-off to get there, but it isn’t all there is. Leadership can be tough and exhausting, but based on the time-gate model there is finally a really simple, singular path to
So, I know up till now my blog has mostly been a weird collection of esoteric raw thoughts (that sound more like performance arts pieces than reasonable opinions) and some refined thoughts that, even though aren’t special, are at least intelligible. But I have something here, that I think is the most amazing realization I have had to date.
An equation for how you can interact with this complex, opinionated, diverse and scattered world in a way that does not create arguments!
Yes! that’s how
...the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
There is no good or evil, only the most productive option. Justice is the manifestation of that, and the best way to reach justice is to temper it with wisdom. You have to find the closest answer to the truth, the most extreme form of justice you can find and then find the highest point on the line that everyone is ready to accept. Pushing everyone to their limit of justice is great leadership; everything over, alienation; and everything under mediocrity. Judge the leader of yesterday by how close to the mental limit they pushed their people, not by your highest current ambition. What someone did not do right is easier to point out, there are always infinite answers, but that is why its not helpful in measuring greatness. The only thing you can measure is what they achieved compared to the highest level of enlightenment their people were ready to accept. Only in this can we find appreciation for what wisdom truly is.
Every right leads to a responsibility. The battle is to get the right acknowledged; the war is to generate the responsibility that right imposes. We fight for the right, but then take a break immediately after. We say that the world has changed forever, and yet, we still get up the same way tomorrow? Have we not the foresight to see the problem. It takes hundreds and hundreds of years for a change in policy to reflect a change in behavior. We write documents of law, but no manuals for life. We have democracy, but have yet to find a out how to use it responsibly. We have no slavery, and yet entire races a trapped in their own inability to discard the effects of the past. We have gender-equality, and yet we cannot raise our girls so they are equally valuable. When you ask for the right, think of the responsibility. When you don't, you create a bigger problem... more pernicious & harder to see. How can you make your vote valuable? Your race valuable? Your gender valuable? How can we help them get to the point where their right is truly valuable; So we can't just buy it on a whim!
This millennium is the last. In a world of complexity the answers are just painfully simple. While you work to move away, work too to find yourself in the here. Never again will you stand in your origins. Never again will you know your family. Never again, will you meet the maker. The force that drives. The force that so simply explains the why. the force you see now around you, the soul of who you are. Never again will you meet it. Walk up to it today, acknowledge it, understand it's intent. Never again, will you be so close to the source.
Go out sometimes. Go out and touch a tree, smell the rain, eat a leaf, feel the flowers. Go out on grass. Go and find yourself among family.
Life moves in circles, like waves crashing in to each other forming infinity. The world is only but a mirage, formed with you at it's center... and wherever you stop looking, it stops existing.
Don’t pity the humble painter. He can be lord of all things. Whatever exists in the universe, he has first in his mind, and then in his hand.
My list of “possible” posts & ideas is growing faster than I can get to write. So maybe this time, I will take a different approach. Maybe I will create “ghosts of done” and have some thing published. Something, no matter how scattered dis-jointed and brief. It is better to have them out then to not at all. And maybe I can leave my future self some hidden notes and explanations that can come back
Raise your 'self' to such heights, that before issuing every decree of destiny, even God would ask you: "Tell me what your wish is?"
Nothing is too wonderful to be true, if it be consistent with the laws of nature.
It is unfortunate that the wealthiest place on the planet is the graveyard. For in the graveyard we will find inventions that never were; ideas that still remain; and dreams that were never acted upon.
Human life (through the lens of time) is a continuous set of complex transactions; each transaction has a cost and a return. These decisions are interlinked, they bounce around through time being impacted by other decisions & their costs until some finally cascade back into your life. The key to happiness is to know what your personality costs, so you can have some understanding of how these rays will re-enter your life. This way you
One of the most interesting infographic I have come-across lately. Scattered sleep, lots of pondering and sporadic work routines; you can see them all. Too bad Tesla is not on this.
For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return.
-Leonardo da Vinci
Life is either held by rules, or holds purpose. Those that have rules don’t require the burden of a purpose and those with a purpose are only hindered by rules.
The funny thing is, of the two groups only the latter truly lives. This makes the first group mere actors in the other’s lives. The combination of multiples of these lives create enough space for society to hold both the groups. By themselves though, each life
‘Who are we? We find that we live on an insignificant planet of a humdrum star lost in a galaxy tucked away in some forgotten corner of a universe in which there are far more galaxies than people.” - Carl Sagan
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” - Rumi
At the eve of right, he got out
to have a bit of a Sunday stroll
Airing out in many a thought
till he came across a rabbit hole
Dark n’ think the air had felt
inquisitive mind and a spirit bold
What secret had the blackness kept?
A sagacious worm, a gold brick road?!
The curious hand grasped down the pit
no time to glimpse, no thought to hold
Before the mind knew what it did
before it had a chance to gloat
Down he went,
If you can understand Urdu/Hindi you will appreciate how amazing this Kalaam (sufi music) is by Khwaja Ghulam Farid is. Over 100 years old and still amazing.
“Questions about whether design is necessary or affordable are quite beside the point: design is inevitable. The alternative to good design is bad design, not no design at all.” - Book Design: A Practical Introduction by Douglas Martin
Make sure others are productive before you are.Before you start on your share of work, make sure everyone you are responsible for has everything they need to do theirs. That's how you get leverage.
There is no good or evil. There is only truth. The closer to truth something is, the easier it is to see it as good. This however, does not stop us from making something good even of it is far far away. To judge something as bad is a flawed concept! You cannot punish the murderer or the thief. It was not their choice to be born in a world where they were the nth child. Statistics shows no mercy. But then again, you cannot punish the bithers and raisers either.... They weren't smart enough to see the truth in the first place. There is no evil. Misery cannot bring serenity. A false action sows no benefit.
If your reasoning is sound, he will come to same conclusion as yours. And if it is not, he will take you to the right one.
Before I even begin, I understand that every situation is unique and human beings are too complex to be explained by just one reason. And even the reasons and explanations that we come-up with, are highly biased. They tell us more about ourselves than the rest of the world. That
In my opinion, experiences are like raw data to the brain. They have scores of information, but it’s all jumbled up into a cocktail of useful/useless, new/old, good/bad information. Our brain takes it all in, and works on it over time. Some patterns become visible instantly while others take more time and additional experiences to formulate. But getting an experience is still far superior than just having a conversation, reading a book or discussing an idea. An
Human beings have one thing that separates them from the rest. You may argue its intelligence, the opposable thumb, our control over our surrounding, or even luck. But I think there is something more fundamental. Its motivation. We as a species are DRIVEN. More so than anything else. Humans are neither the fastest, strongest, biggest, tallest, baddest or scariest things in the world. Hell we die of mosquito bites and low self-esteem all the time. But as a
For girls, gaining value through appearance has instant returns... but in a twisted way of fate, this short-cut becomes the very reason they experience unappreciaton. Because in the long run, the newness erodes the inflated effect of appearance, and the newness of 'others' increases theirs. So the only way to keep respect is to use the inflated control they have over guys when they are new, to re-enforce the value of their personality not appearance. That is really the only sustainable competitive advantage any one of us can hold. Appearance is easier to rate and inflates the value of the 'new' one, especially if the judge is a guy (blame biology). Personality is too complex to rate on a glimpse and gives advantage to the known over the unknown.
So, I have 4 designs. All spun from getting feedbacks from people. I want you to tell me what’s your favorite choice, Choice 2, Choice 3. Put it in the comments if the poll doesn’t work.
Here are the Concepts! Click to enlarge
With half the world’s population under poverty, constant starvation, disease & disaster, I cannot think of a more greater need in the world we live in today than to simply do more good. I thought to myself.. “if I could empower people to do good everyday, that would simply be the best product the world can have”
So I went on this mission that lead me to found a company called Fundraid. Fundraid enables collective masses to simply
Audacity: Sounds Editing
Photohsop: Text Layers
After Effects: Animation
This is just a screen capture of me making “Fundraid Info Session: How to change the world!” (below). I learned audacity on the spot for this one ( You can see me paused inbetween to see a youtube tutorial). My first ever typography video :)
I made some changes to the photoshop text layers after, which are not rin the video.. but everything else works :)
Fourth year business student Huzaifa Sial talks to The Cord about the ups and downs of running his charitable business
Huzaifa Sial, a fourth year student at Wilfrid Laurier University, began his journey to success as a science whiz in high school. Though it was a strong suit for him, Sial realized that he couldn’t see himself doing it for the rest of his life and began to search for other options. After coming to Laurier